Do You Long For Greater Harmony And Balance In Your Relationships?
Are you eager to cultivate a healthy romantic relationship, but find yourself attracting people who are wrong for you or don’t allow you to feel like yourself? Are you preoccupied with being “good enough” to the extent it prevents you from dating or engaging in relationships? Are you grieving the loss of a relationship and find yourself feeling overwhelmed by pain? Perhaps you are in a relationship, but you have a hard time expressing how you feel or asserting what you need from your partner. Or, perhaps you are moving toward marriage and are eager to explore and create greater clarity about your values and expectations for a lifetime partnership.
Relationship problems can wreak havoc on every part of your life. You may be adjusting to a major life change, such as a promotion or new baby, feel stuck in a long-term committed partnership or feel completely overwhelmed by the prospect of dating. Regardless of where you’re at, you may crave the tools needed to confidently identify and express your needs, resolve conflicts and experience greater overall connection and fulfillment.
We All Sometimes Struggle To Navigate Relationships
It’s common to experience insecurities, individual differences and disagreements in all phases of relationships. As a woman, you likely have intense demands upon your time and energy, so relationship concerns may, at times, take the back seat. However, when your uncertainties, feelings and needs are not actively attended to and managed, it’s common for relational issues to develop.
Research demonstrates that many women experience anxiety symptoms due to relationship tension. These women may appear calm on the outside, but internally their hearts are pounding.
Women’s counseling can help you slow down, create greater trust and intimacy and feel more at ease. With the right guidance, it’s possible to experience increased balance, empowerment and connection that serves your unique personality and needs.
Relationship Therapy Can Bring You More Joy
The overall goal of relationship counseling is to help you feel more secure, self-aware and able to connect in genuine and intimate ways-- across all interpersonal relationships, as well as the relationship you have with yourself.
In relationship counseling, I use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), which is a highly effective therapy modality that works to identify, explore and heal unhelpful thinking and behaviors. I also recognize that each woman is unique. We all feel hurt or frustrated at times, but each woman differs in how she carries and expresses these feelings. Therefore, I tailor the course of work to your individual goals and desires. During our initial meetings, we will carefully identify your intentions and values and create a clear direction for our work together.
Because common patterns often underlie conflict and dissatisfaction in relationships, part of our work entails identifying the triggers to your distress. From here, we practice skills that allow you to deescalate unhelpful thoughts, feelings and behaviors as they emerge. By learning more about yourself and how your past experiences impact you in the current moment, you can begin to cultivate more compassion for yourself and others. Relationship therapy can provide you with communication skills to express your thoughts and feelings more clearly and carefully, even when you’re feeling angry or unheard.
I’ve helped many women examine their relationship history and practice ways to mindfully access and process their feelings. With the right tools, it’s possible to reframe arguments or moments of irritation and begin to honor your true self in relationships. No matter where you’re at, know that your feelings are valid. When you’re able to nurture self-compassion, awareness and expression, you can begin to feel more engaged, confident and happy in all your relationships.
You may still have questions or concerns about relationship counseling for women…
+ Do you offer couples counseling?
No, I work with women individually to identify specific goals, access and express feelings and achieve greater relational intimacy and satisfaction. That said, throughout our work together, I consistently assess and evaluate whether you and your partner may benefit from couples counseling. When appropriate, I can provide a trusted referral to a couples counselor.
+ I’m worried that I don’t have time to work on my relationship problems.
Many women feel as though there’s not enough time to invest in themselves. However, taking just an hour out of your week to work with a qualified relationship counselor can provide you with techniques that lead to increased relief, resiliency and productivity. If your relationship dissatisfaction is impacting your well-being, therapy is an investment that can help. Some women find that even just a few sessions provide useful tools and sustainable relief.
+ Do I really need therapy? Don’t all relationships have ups and downs?
It’s true that even the strongest, most supportive relationships have moments of misunderstanding, disconnection, conflict and hurt. However, if you find that you are consistently struggling to communicate your needs, or that moments of disagreement continually lead to prolonged tension, anger or sadness, counseling can help. When you’re able to develop an understanding of yourself-- your expectations and the root sources of your dissatisfaction—then you can begin to create space for effective communication and healthy intimate connection.